From Stuck to Secure: Make Decisions with Peace

Instead of Paralysis

 I help women stop people-pleasing, trust themselves again, and honor both God and their own voice—especially if you were raised to believe having needs is selfish.

You're in the Right Place If..

You're struggling with:

✓ Saying yes when you mean no (and resenting everyone after)

✓ Making decisions based on what everyone else wants instead of what you need


✓ Consulting everyone before making a choice—and feeling more confused after


✓ One-sided relationships where you do all the work


✓ Losing yourself trying to keep everyone else happy


✓ Church hurt or spiritual manipulation in the name of "submission"


✓ Knowing what you want but being terrified to say it

Maybe you:

  • Spent money on gifts for everyone in your family even when you didn't really have it to spend, because you didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings

  • Said yes to meeting a friend for coffee—who has stood you up 3 times—anyway, because you forgave them and they swore they'd be there this time

  • Volunteered for everything at church (signs before/after service, prayer team, Bible study) and now you're burnt out but don't know how to stop

  • Did what your husband wanted because it was easier than a fight, or gave him decision-making power because you were too tired to care anymore

....If you're still here, I'm sure you can add to this list. ;)

You're ready to:

✓ Find your voice without apology


✓ Make decisions with peace instead of paralysis


✓ Trust yourself again—without abandoning your faith


✓ Stop carrying everyone else's emotions


✓ Have the difficult conversations you've been avoiding


✓ Build relationships based on mutual respect, not one-sided sacrifice

Here's the Truth You Need to Hear...

You're not selfish for having needs.

Speaking up doesn't make you unloving.

Having a voice doesn't make you rebellious.

Self-abandonment isn't biblical submission—it's survival dressed in theology.

You were taught that good Christian women sacrifice endlessly, stay silent when it hurts, and call it faithfulness. But Jesus had boundaries. He said no. He rested. He spoke truth even when it was uncomfortable.

I learned about trusting myself and having a voice when I was 28 years old.

Before that?

I lived my whole life feeling ashamed that I "wasn't being like Jesus" and that I was being selfish if I didn't want to do insert thing here that made someone else's life easier and I had no desire to do.

I've been where you are:

Doing what my husband wanted because it was easier than a fight...

Trying to convince him to do what I wanted, or being so tired and burnt out that I didn't care what we did, so I gave the decision-making power away...

Saying yes to seeing people after working 16 hours because you love folks and wanted to see them, but you'd also feel bad if you didn't...

Volunteering for everything—bake brownies, lead Bible study, prayer after church, run kids everywhere—while still working, cleaning, "self-caring," having sex with your husband...

... & & & &

Anyone else?

But here's what changed everything:

I went to counseling.

I did coaching.

I read books.

I learned to trust my own voice again.

And it has—no lie—changed my whole life.

I feel so much more sure of myself.

Certain of my calling.

Sure of my worth.

Confident in my requests for better relationships...

Confident in speaking up for what I need and not repeating the same things over and over again that made me feel insignificant.

And I am confident in my ability to walk away, if I need to. Biblically, of course.

The point is: I did it.
You can do it, too.
I can help you.

You can honor God and yourself. You don't have to choose.

The PEACE Framework: How I Help You Get Unstuck

I created the PEACE Framework for women who are stuck between what they want and what everyone expects—women who've lost their voice and don't know how to get it back.

This isn't another self-help program that ignores your faith. It's not toxic church theology that ignores your humanity. It's both.

Here's what happens:

P - Permission to Prioritize
You learn that having needs isn't selfish

E - Examine External Influences
You identify whose voice is loudest (and it's not yours)

A - Acknowledge Your Truth
You name what you actually want without guilt

C - Create Clear Boundaries
You learn to say it out loud, with security not aggression

E - Embrace Discernment
You make decisions with peace, not paralysis

Ready to experience this for yourself? Book a free Peace Call and bring one decision you've been struggling with—you'll leave with peace.

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I'm Darian

CEO, RN & advocate for you

I'm here to be your confidant, encourager, teacher, coach, and brainstorming buddy to help you find your God-given voice and begin to speak up boldly and full of love for the humans in your life.

At She Speaks Securely, I am ALL about you speaking up with clarity, confidence, and conviction so that you can have amazing, healthy, full relationships from a point of knowing who you are and standing confidently in it.

I specialize in helping women get out of people-pleasing and set boundaries that honor both God and themselves.

Breaking generational curses here, doing things differently, and still in a God-honoring way, baybay!

How I Got Comfortable With Uncomfortable Conversations

Being a RN, I had to get comfortable saying some pretty uncomfortable things to people...to strangers...

Can you imagine walking into a stranger's room and being like, "So, when's the last time you peed, pooped, had sex, drank?"

I grew up in Alabama, y'all...

Southern ladies—in the conservative church, even if it was non-denominational—did not go around talking about such personal things with anyone!

And now I'm a leader and boss person walking around talking about this stuff all the time—for the betterment of the human I was caring for!

It was a little wild.

I had to learn and do as I went—which I help teach women how to do, even when they feel uncomfortable or weird about it at first. Because baybay, I have been there.

And then I learned how to do it about death and dying when I became a hospice nurse!

The Worst Conversation I Ever Had to Lead

I think the worst conversation I was blessed to lead went something like:

"Mr. So-and-So, I was told that you have been inappropriately touching your kid."

And I knew him.
And his whole family.

If you wanna talk about weird, awkward, scary, uncomfortable, what-the-heck-do-I-do-if-they-say-they-have? If they deny it?

I have been there, too, lady.

It was awful.

And I was FULL OF PEACE.

Praise Jesus Himself.

Here's What I Know For Sure

I am telling you with absolute certainty:

You are able to do exceedingly abundantly more than you can imagine because the God of the Universe is IN YOU. And He is leading you.

He wants great, healthy relationships for you—with your spouse, your kids, your boss, your co-workers, your friends.

And He wants you to know how fully loved, known, wanted, and important you are to Him.

And that He gave you your voice.

And He gave you those people, for such a time as this.

A Little More About Me

I'm also a singer, a single (divorced) lady with 10 furbabies (all cats and dogs—yes, you read the number right ;)), my RN license (I've worked in critical care, home infusions, and hospice), I sing on stages sometimes, dance in public, and laughing is my absolute favorite thing to do.

And I have the absolute pleasure and best time helping women find their voice so that everything around them changes. Ever.y.thing. For the better.
For their better.
Praise Jesus.

Women find me when they realize they've gotten a bit mad at their humans (usually a spouse, lover, or kid) for taking advantage of their time and energy, and they're ready to set some boundaries but have NO idea how to do that well.

Through Jesus, the Holy Spirit, and the coaching available here, your total breakthrough in this area is inevitable. I literally have NO doubt.

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